Ask Niels: How do I set up a second date? October 8, 2007
Posted by Niels in : Ask Niels, Dating coach, How to , trackbackI just wanted to let you know I think you are a stand up guy. I just read your blog and I too dididn’t have my first date until 20. It was the same for me just a few phone calls before and after the date, then the calls stopped. Since then I have been single and it’s been hard to find a descent guy. If you have any advice that would be great.
-Susan
Hey Susan! You’re not giving me much to go on - I’m not sure whether you mean it’s hard to meet a guy, to get a first date, or to get a second date. But one thing I can offer you is this: arrange the second date when you’re still on the first date. If you can’t set up the second date when you’re with him and having fun together, how are you possibly going to do it over the phone? And if he doesn’t want to meet you again, at least you know then and you save yourself all those painful phone calls.
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I disagree. If she tries to arrange the second date on the first, chances are I won’t ask her for the second.