Super secret seminar Friday! Newbies only. September 26, 2007
Posted by Niels in : Dating coach, Personal , trackbackAnd by “super secret” I mean “feel free to invite your friends”.
Last Friday was great. We had over ten people and I want to keep the momentum going. See you this Friday, 7-9pm, Nickerson Street Saloon.
We’ll do some more banter exercises, continuing to keep the focus on being natural and spontaneous. I’m going to keep focusing on first impressions for a while, with things like touching, psychological space, dealing with approach anxiety, and having fun when you’re being tested.
Eventually I want to get into the good stuff - how to really connect on an emotional level, dropping all the games and being sincere, and eventually… of course… meeting people during the day.
But first things first - you gotta walk before you can run.
Logistics:
I don’t want exclude anyone because of their financial situation. At the same time, I’m no longer teaching workshops, I have no income, and I’ve got to make rent. So there’s a tradeoff. My proposal:
Everyone who attends brings a sealed, blank envelope. Weigh what you can afford vs. what the evening is worth to you and put that much in the envelope (cash, or a check made out to “Niels Hoven”). I’ll open them later, so everything will be anonymous, but hopefully I’ll remain motivated to keep doing this, no one will be excluded because they can’t afford it, and we’ll all live happily ever after.
See you Friday! If you haven’t attended before, RSVP to me by email.
-Niels
P.S. Please buy a drink or a snack from Nickerson Street Saloon so they continue to tolerate us.
P.P.S. If anyone has an idea for a new venue, let me know. Ideal place would be quiet/private and near Fremont (or perhaps Belltown) and CHEAP.
P.P.P.S. Newbies only, as always.
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Are these in Seattle?
Yes, Seattle.
I like what you’re doing here, but I think you should provide more information. Doing so would be a pareto improvement, i think.
If I were you, I would lay out what they would normally pay if they were doing PickUp101 or something of its ilk. Then suggest that you think half (or some other percent) of that is an appropriate rate, although you are willing to accept less, and if they value it less then they should also feel free to contribute less. It seems to me like this would 1) get you more money, as you’d be setting a fairly high baseline rate, 2) make your students feel like they’d gotten a heckuva deal (even though they might be giving you more than they would otherwise).
The brain works best when comparing against a standard.
Given also that people value more what they have to pay more for, it may also help them learn.