This family moment was brought to you by an emotional connection August 17, 2007
Posted by Niels in : Other , 1 comment so far
I recently received a heartwarming email from a former student. Learning to open myself up didn’t just improve my relationships with women, it improved all the relationships in my life. I love hearing from other people who have transformed their relationships with their friends and family as well. Emotions - they’re not just for pickup anymore.
Your thoughts?On my side i had an amazing weekend! I just had to share couple of things with you. Because i can’t see them taking place without your support and you pushing me out of my boundaries during the seminar.
On Saturday, we celebrated joyfully my grandma’s 80th birthday. My mother set up all the event for her (inviting people, cooking everything,…), and she wanted me to help her writing a speech while she was driving. I first wanted to check with her what she absolutely wanted to tell her. But her judgmental part took control of the situation… ‘Now you HAVE to stop… and you SHOULD… Before you WERE…’ Any of her sentence was full of negativity, judgment, and FACTS!!!! So i helped her trying to first express what she deeply wanted to share her, i helped her paint images, i helped her to express her emotions (that is the part where i remembered seeing you at the London seminar telling me ‘Facts, facts, facts, …. I want emotions!’ and while trying to put in emotions, i kept with facts, and i hated it … until i was finally able to put emotions in it :-)) .
At the end of the delicious meal she prepared, she went on for the speech. She was so anxious! I can still hear her voice getting weaker, becoming slower, deeper…. a small pause. Tension increasing. An intense moment, her eyes were telling more than her words could. Seeing my grandma’s eyes getting shinier, a sparkle in her eyes, i understood she was remembering some part of her life as my mother was describing her those. And no one could have done it as well. Tension kept building up. Anyone could feel it. no one was speaking anymore - even babies were only listening. No more joke, commentary… everyone was living that instant fully. The judgments had disappeared, all was left were true deep emotions expressing fully in her presence.
She got huge applause as she was smiling back at me. She did it!When later on, she drive back she felt a need to thank me for writing the speech. But as i told her it was her speech! All i did was to help her get in touch with the real emotions and forget for a minute of the obligations of life! It felt incredibly good being able to do it!
Thanks man!!!
Bringing sexy back to… Detroit? August 16, 2007
Posted by Niels in : Personal , add a commentYou know that feeling of relief you get when you get to leave Sweden in the middle of the summer and finally get to go somewhere beautiful like Detroit? Umm… yeah… me neither. Oh well, no matter. It’s wedding time!
Your thoughts?Best hotel key card warning label threat ever August 15, 2007
Posted by Niels in : Personal , 1 comment so farI swear to God, this is from the back of my room key from our hotel. I love Sweden.
Your thoughts?If you find this key Card, please read below. Until 12 o’clock tomorrow, this card is valid in one of 532 rooms or in one of 17 conference rooms at the Clarion Hotel Stockholm. However, if you are a thief do not even consider visiting us, as we have very good security both inside and outside the Hotel and our Front Desk personal have eyes like hawks.
Eye contact in Sweden and cultural differences August 14, 2007
Posted by Niels in : Personal , add a commentIt’s crazy how much eye contact Daniel and I are getting here in Sweden. In the US, that’s usually a blatant indicator that you really ought to go talk to the girl. But here it’s happening so much that we’re starting to wonder. I wish I had more than three days to try to figure this out…
Your thoughts?Why “levels of pickup mastery” is a dumb idea August 14, 2007
Posted by Niels in : How to, Other, Personal , 5 commentsI love the idea of a community of men working together to improve their social skills, rediscover their masculinity, and deepen their understanding of relationships. I love the fact that those who grew up without strong male role models in their life can now search for them among their peers. But it’s so frustrating to me whenever I see the misogyny, insecurity, and general weirdness that still permeates the “seduction community”. There’s so much potential for positive social change and yet time and time again I see healthy attitudes losing the battle in a sea of creepiness.
I found the following on a bulletin board, the poster is talking about “levels of pickup mastery”. Ignore the weird creepy jargon, or just take it as another red flag that the poster has lost his way…
So courtesy Mystery i’m setting up some levels (all of them are based on skillset - the results are just a means of measurement).
Yellow Belt (basically rAFC) - gets his ass kicked.
I’m sure all the guys can relate to the fact that though being a rAFC is >> being an AFC. you still get your ass kicked.Green Belt - can pull a day 2 with a HB8+ any given fortnight he chooses.
Explanation: fortnight means that in the time period of two weeks you can convince a HB8+ to meet you again, in an isolated
situation. (it should be obvious that a f-close >> day 2).Orange Belt - can pull a day 2 with a HB8+ any given week. Also has f-closed atleast a B7.5 using ASF skillset. This level is the same as GPUA level.
Red Belt - can f-close a HB8+ any given month.
Explanation: A red belt decides that in may he’s gonna f-close a hb8+, and starting May 1st, by the end of May he’s done it.
Brown Belt - can f-close a HB8+ any given fortnight.
Black Belt - can f-close a HB8+ any given week.
Explanation: Cold Approach to f-close must be within a week.
Regardless of Logistics.
Black Belt - PUA Level. This is the exact same as PUA level in ASF.
You know what?
Who cares?
Who cares whether you’re an AFC or a PUA or an XYZ or an MZQ? Who cares if you’ve slept with 2 girls or 200? Are you seriously saying that if someone sleeps with a new girl every week he is in some way “better” than someone who sleeps with a new girl every two weeks?
There’s only one question that matters in all of this, and that is: Are you happy? I’m satisfied with the knowledge that I can create any kind of relationship I can imagine. Whatever makes me the happiest, I can go out and make it part of my life.
Put a guy in front of me. I don’t care how hot the girls he’s shagging are. I don’t care how comfortable he is in bars. I don’t even care if he can cold approach. If he has everything he wants and is happy with his life, then he’s achieved mastery.
Trying to impose some arbitrary ranking system for “who has improved themselves more” is an exercise in futility. Don’t let other people tell you “Oh, you can’t or be happy unless you can get a new girl every week.” Or, “You can’t be happy unless you’re having sex with strippers.” Or, “You can’t be happy unless you’re having regular threesomes.”
Ask yourself, what do I need to be happy? Because once you’ve lost sight of that then caring about “levels of pickup mastery” is no different than getting excited about your level 60 elf paladin on Everquest.
Your thoughts?