This family moment was brought to you by an emotional connection August 17, 2007
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I recently received a heartwarming email from a former student. Learning to open myself up didn’t just improve my relationships with women, it improved all the relationships in my life. I love hearing from other people who have transformed their relationships with their friends and family as well. Emotions - they’re not just for pickup anymore.
On my side i had an amazing weekend! I just had to share couple of things with you. Because i can’t see them taking place without your support and you pushing me out of my boundaries during the seminar.
On Saturday, we celebrated joyfully my grandma’s 80th birthday. My mother set up all the event for her (inviting people, cooking everything,…), and she wanted me to help her writing a speech while she was driving. I first wanted to check with her what she absolutely wanted to tell her. But her judgmental part took control of the situation… ‘Now you HAVE to stop… and you SHOULD… Before you WERE…’ Any of her sentence was full of negativity, judgment, and FACTS!!!! So i helped her trying to first express what she deeply wanted to share her, i helped her paint images, i helped her to express her emotions (that is the part where i remembered seeing you at the London seminar telling me ‘Facts, facts, facts, …. I want emotions!’ and while trying to put in emotions, i kept with facts, and i hated it … until i was finally able to put emotions in it :-)) .
At the end of the delicious meal she prepared, she went on for the speech. She was so anxious! I can still hear her voice getting weaker, becoming slower, deeper…. a small pause. Tension increasing. An intense moment, her eyes were telling more than her words could. Seeing my grandma’s eyes getting shinier, a sparkle in her eyes, i understood she was remembering some part of her life as my mother was describing her those. And no one could have done it as well. Tension kept building up. Anyone could feel it. no one was speaking anymore - even babies were only listening. No more joke, commentary… everyone was living that instant fully. The judgments had disappeared, all was left were true deep emotions expressing fully in her presence.
She got huge applause as she was smiling back at me. She did it!When later on, she drive back she felt a need to thank me for writing the speech. But as i told her it was her speech! All i did was to help her get in touch with the real emotions and forget for a minute of the obligations of life! It felt incredibly good being able to do it!
Thanks man!!!
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cool story. another example of how pickup relates to everything in life.