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A magical evening July 13, 2007

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If making friends with a family of traveling magicians and having dinner at their place is not yet on your to-do list, it needs to be. That’s all I’m saying.

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Ask Niels: Why am I scared to talk to girls? July 12, 2007

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I have a quick question. Often with very attractive girls, I treat them as if they are smarter, more judgemental, funner, etc. than less attractive girls. This often leads to me being intimidated by them, because i put their reputation on a pedestal. I’m sure that I will also be very dissapointed with my beliefs once I meet more very attractive girls. How do you change your mindset so that you are not intimidated by very attractive girls? Maybe even something you say to yourself just before you go into approach them.

-MD

Hi MD - You’re absolutely right. As you meet more very attractive girls, you will discover that physical attractiveness does not necessarily correspond to how smart or fun they are. Or how successful they will be in life. That hot girl you see in the bar - where is she going to be 30 years from now vs. where you’re going to be 30 years from now? Looking at it that way, the pedestal that society puts beautiful women on begins to look kinda silly. So reduce your approach anxiety by taking the focus off the results of your interactions. Go out with only the intention of having fun. Smile like an idiot. Bob your head and think, “Yeah yeah yeah…” to yourself. Slap your ass. You can’t be nervous when you’re having fun.

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Hot in Seattle July 12, 2007

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Harry Potter’s out! I wasn’t really a fan of the other movies, but this one had a pretty awesome preview. I am excited about the book, though. (Sidenote: Last time a Harry Potter book was released, I downloaded it, which worked fine, except that it came with textporn sexified versions of the previous books, which was a little weird.)

The apartment is coming together. We have a couch, an armoire for my computer, we’re going to be building a big-ass beanbag, and Craig is still fighting me on the stripper pole. Can’t wait.

Been going out with friends all week. It’s amazing how much time you have when you don’t have a job, or at the very least no homework. My evenings are free! What a fantastic concept.

I’m trying to spend my days learning marketing, but it’s tough when the weather is so beautiful. It’s cool, though, I figure I can tolerate a few weeks of drudge work to get the ball rolling on my own business. Look for a website redesign in the next few months…

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Learn language through movies July 10, 2007

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A few days ago, a friend explained a fascinating, painless technique he uses to learn languages. Everyone suggests learning languages by watching foreign movies, but he’s broken it down in a really interesting way. First, watch the movie with subtitles on, a few times, until you really grasp what’s going on. Then watch it without subtitles. THEN, turn the movie on in the background while you go about your daily business - washing dishes, packing, doing laundry, etc. Listen to it in the background over and over. Eventually, your mind will pick up on the sounds and start replaying the movie in your head, and you’ll connect the dialogue with the meaning. It’s almost as good as osmosis! Time for me to get the French movie Diva…

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Man arrested after direct approach July 9, 2007

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From The Denver Channel

DENVER — A man who told two women they were extremely beautiful was arrested on charges of harassment last week, Denver police said.

Police said 32-year-old Jeff John Hergert approached the women and “expressed interest in them.” He told each woman in two separate incidents that they were extremely beautiful and that they should consider modeling.

Hergert was arrested and is being held on two counts of harassment. He is being held on a $10,000 bond.

On the one hand, I know it’s not what you say, it’s how you say it. And he must have said it pretty creepy. But for god’s sake, can’t anyone take a compliment these days?

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