How do I let a girl know I like her? June 6, 2007
Posted by Niels in : How to, Other , trackback
Hi Niels,
Your website is very good! I’ve been reading about the pickup stuff but when talking to girls i just can’t seem to come up with good SOIs (show of interest / statement of intent). I just tell the girls very cheesy lines that doesn’t seem to work for me. Please, can you give me some examples of SOI. I think I can improve my game a lot more if I get around this.
-JZ
Hi JZ - I think you’re falling into the common trap of paying attention to what you say. It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it. To express your interest in a girl you’ve just met, just give her a compliment. “You’re cute.” “I like you.” “You’re very sexy.” But again, it’s all about how you say it.
This is not a needy compliment. You are not complimenting her in order to make her like you. You are not complimenting her in order to move closer to some goal of your own. You are merely giving her a genuine compliment to make her day a little better because you are confident enough to do so without expecting anything in return.
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Letting a girl know you like her and a Statement of Intent are two different things.
First off, the moment you start talking to a girl, she’ll automatically assume you’re interested in her - no matter how indirect. This phenomenon is exaggerated grossly if you’re the one to initiate interaction.
As for a statement of intent. If you’re doing direct game, then a “I find you incredibly sexy.” will work.
Niels, btw… an SOI is not “a genuine compliment to make her day a little better… etc.” An SOI is an expression meant to tell her that you’re not here to make friends. It’s good for ppl who find themselves ending up in the friend zone more often than not.
I’m not too keen on saying “I like you.” unless it’s a reward for something good she’s said or done. “You’re cute” doesn’t seem as much a statement of intent. Hell. Just yesterday I told my friend’s 2yo that she was cute.
The problem with saying “You’re sexy” is the use of the word sexy. It really depends which girl you are conversing with but there is a possibility that with that she will think you are hitting on her. If you want to take someone out you can be one of two ways, direct “Hi id like to take you out sometime” that way there is no going into the wondrous land of a platonic relationship and the second is “Lets go for coffee”. Taking someone out is a date, coffee is saying you want to get to know them.
And person above me, if a guy came up to me and just said “I find you incredibly sexy” I would really be wondering….okay and what else?
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