Ask Niels: My friend is flirting with my crush! April 12, 2007
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Theres a guy I’ve had a thing for since late September. He and I had connected greatly and we started hanging out everyday after school. We would usually flirt then when there weren’t people staring at us. Recently, one of my best friends started flirting with him, a lot. I had talked to her about it, but she it didn’t seem to effect her. Now, she has a boyfriend, but she still flirts with that guy I like. I’ve tried telling her it made me uncomfortable, and she apologized, but she isn’t stopping! He flirts back, but he told me he didn’t feel for her. She ALSO butts in whenever I’m talking to her, so that’s also a problem. What would you suggest I do? A response would mean a lot to me, seeing as how Yahoo! Answers only brought flamers.
-Ann
Sorry Ann, but there’s a statute of limitations on potential relationships. If you two have been flirting for SIX MONTHS and neither of you has had the balls to make a move, then it’s open season for anyone else. Especially if this someone else just enjoys flirting for the fun of it. I flirt with little old ladies all the time. Flirting is fun. It makes people feel good.
If you had just met this guy and were working on making something happen, then I would tell you to reevaluate what kind of a friend you’ve got. But you’ve let months and months of opportunities go by. You don’t get a perpetual monopoly on flirting with this guy.
And even if you two were dating, you should be confident enough in yourself and your relationship to not mind when other people flirt with your guy. I like it when other guys flirt with a girl I’m dating. I know they’re not going to take her away from me, it reminds me how sexy she is, it reminds her how sexy she is, and once they get her all turned on, I get to reap the benefits.
Be a better flirt than your friend, hook this guy, and then all of you can flirt together. Oh, and while you’re at it, start flirting with her boyfriend…
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you are taking more time to bitch about it than to actually do something about it. Do something about it instead of talking!!!!
yeah bitch
i was in the same situation… i turned up the heat while flirting and i asked him out. after that my friend got jealous and if she butts in while talking then just say, “excuse me but we are talking here! why don’t you go away and just leave us alone for a minute.” if after that nothing happens then you just take the bitch out.!
same here…fml.