Ask Niels: How do I talk to a girl on a cellphone? March 30, 2007
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There’s a girl that’s in my financial accounting class that sits in front of me (not directly) thats real cute. In class she’ll ocassionally look to her right to see if i’m lookin at her, and most of the time i am haha. My teacher lectures for the most part so we can’t really talk, so I’ll usually wait until class is over to talk to her. But, my problem is when I do try to talk to her in the hallway she’ll already be calling someone on the phone. I’ve thought about just cutting in and be random, but I don’t want to be seem as a weirdass. So what should i do?
-c
Smile and say hi to her in the classroom before she gets on her cell phone. If you were approaching a stranger on the street, it would be trickier. You would have to do something like say “Excuse me.” Or gesture to her to lower her phone. This is something you know how to do already. If your car was on fire by the side of the road, you would figure out a way to stop someone and get them off their cell phone.
Fortunately, you don’t have to worry about that. Just say hi to her before she gets on the phone! Sheesh.
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Come early to class. Talk to everyone around you, guys and girls and the teacher too. Tell interesting stories and joke around with them. She will notice people laughing and having a good time with you.
By the time you acknowledge her and grace her with your presence, she will have observed your charm and personality and will want to join your party. Then it is easy.
Talking to her alone is useless if you can’t even be sociable and win over the other classmates around you.
Good lord, you don’t have to work the room just to talk to a classmate…
He doesn’t have to work the classroom, but being the popular guy in class will make winning over the girl easier.
It’s called social proof. Mystery taught that to the guys that taught you. It’s a higher level of game that addresses the fact that women don’t judge you in a social vacuum.
However, the original poster is a guy who is asking for advice on something as simple as talking to a classmate. That type of guy is unlikely to generate social proof or even win her over just by talking to her one-on-one.
The real issue is that guys like that need to learn how to be social to people.
You don’t need to work the whoel room, and don’t gesture her to put down her phone! If you’re sitting behind you, once the class end, you should have enough time to just tap her on the shoulder and “Excuse me, i didn’t catch the last thing the professor said or blah blah blah” And how can you compare trying to talk to get a girl off the phone to a car on fire?!?! Their totally different and have nothing to do with each other!
Oops…i meant if you’re sitting behind HER
Here’s the deal, plain and simple:
Simply try to get to the seat next to her and say “Hello, is this seat taken?”
Or
“Mind if I join you?”
Then introduce yourself and make conversation from there. After that, ask her out for a cup of coffee or something.
Quoting #3: “Mystery taught that to the guys that taught you.”
Dear Niels,
How can I attract such awesome commenters to my blog?
Thanks,
Jesse.
I smell disaster even before the approach.
Three simple words. One simple rule… IT’S ALWAYS ON. The game is always on.
If you’re checking her out a lot, she notices, and you don’t make a move within the immediate future - you’re done. Well… you’re in a really, really deep hole. I don’t care if you haven’t spoken a word or even breathed in her direction.
If she’s always on the phone, then you can be sure she’s socially savvy. Even more of a reason for you to be on your A game.
My advice is that you give up on her - if not permanently, then at least for the time being.
You gotta stop staring at her.
ahah i didnt know that my message made it to the website! anyway, thanks for all those comments. I basically went up to her after class if she had class afterwards, and i took her out to lunch to help me with contra revenues (accounting bullshiit that no one needs to know). After that it was a done deal.
Thanks for the advice Niel!
-chris