Dating resources for women? March 31, 2007
Posted by Niels in : Other , 5 comments
I have an ex-nerd friend who follows your blog and myspace page; he mentioned that you were going to be in Phoenix this weekend as a dating coach. Naturally I was suprised, having watched Beauty and the Geek after meeting Pio at a jello wrestling party in Bethesda.
I was curious, is there an equivalent to the Art of Attraction, for women? And where do you plan on taking your Phoenix “students” out to practice these tricks of the pick-up trade?
-Dee
I think the reason Art of Attraction exists is because the average woman is more socially aware than your average guy. Most men are playing catch up. That said, there are a lot of similar resources out there for women. You’ve got The Rules, Christian Carter, Love Tactics, Why Men Love Bitches, Technique of the Love Affair, “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus”, etc. However, I think the best resources for men (Art of Attraction and Art of Rapport) are better than the best resources for women. I’m in the process of reading The Rules right now, so I’ll be better able to comment in a few days.
As for Phoenix, we went to Fashion Square Mall. The nice thing about that mall is that women’s wedding rings are so huge you can see them from the other side of the building.
Your thoughts?Ask Niels: How do I tell him what I want? March 29, 2007
Posted by Niels in : How to, Other , 18 comments
I am an attractive, witty, nice, sweet, blah, blah, on and on, twenty eight year old woman who is NOT looking for a relationship. I’m not saying forever, I am just saying for now. Now, I like to socialize. I get my “relationship/companionship†fulfillment from engaging in activities and conversation with both men and women, young and old. I enjoy going to social events and bars to talk with people of all types. However, my charming ways often backfire because it often leads men, (and some women,) to believe that I am looking for something more. This just happens to be who I am. What is the best and most ‘believable’ way for me to tell them I am not looking for anything, without them immediately think that I was hurt in a past relationship and am ‘scared’ to jump back in?
-Misty
Him: It’s fun talking to you!
You: It’s fun talking to you, too!
Him: Let’s grab a cup of coffee sometime!
You: Sure, as long as you’re ok with the fact that I’m not looking for a relationship right now.
It is not your responsibility to prevent someone from asking you for a date. It is only your responsibility to communicate your situation politely and decline politely if the other person is looking for something different. Most people will appreciate hearing this right away. The few who don’t and instead feel the need to psychoanalyze you are insecure whiners who are striking back over a rejection that didn’t even occur and by doing so are making it very clear that they’re not the kind of people you wanted in your life anyway.
So don’t sweat it.
Your thoughts?Famous in Phoenix March 28, 2007
Posted by Niels in : Beauty and the Geek, Personal , 5 comments
Phoenix was a little ridiculous. Usually I get recognized a couple times a week. In Phoenix, it was a couple times an hour. I guess when it’s 105 degrees outside, there’s not much you can do but watch reality television.
I was asked for autographs for the first time, was mobbed by people every time I went out to a bar, and had ten year old girls scream when they spotted me in a mall. For the first time in my life, I had the experience of people in a bar watching me all night long, looking to see what I was doing and who I was talking to. Girls I didn’t know would come up to me and paw me and grind against me and generally molest me.
The funny part was, as much as it looked like attraction, it wasn’t. It was something else. More on that soon.
Your thoughts?I’ve made it to IMDB March 26, 2007
Posted by Niels in : Beauty and the Geek, Personal , 4 comments
My IMDB page has appeared. Neat!
Famous again March 23, 2007
Posted by Niels in : Beauty and the Geek, Personal , 5 commentsWell, my two weeks of anonymity in Europe were fun, but they’re over now. I made it as far as the food court in the Newark airport before someone asked to take a photo of me. And Phoenix has been ridiculous. The desk clerk at the hotel recognized me when I checked in, along with the greeters at the restaurant I went to afterwards, several hotel guests, and countless people left and right when I went out to the bars tonight.
The high point of the evening, though, may have been this conversation:
Drunk dude: “Hey! I recognize you!”
Me: “Hey man, what’s up?”
blah blah blah conversation blah blah blah
Me: “It’s a bit of a sausagefest in here!”
Drunk dude now hanging off my shoulders: “Yeah… thank God!”
It’s ok, gay guys need D-list celebrity sightings, too.
Your thoughts?