I’m a has-been! February 16, 2007
Posted by Niels in : Beauty and the Geek, Life, the universe, and everything , 19 comments
It’s official, I’m all washed up. A reporter from the Washington Post contacted me a few weeks ago about doing a feature article on me and the Art of Rapport workshop in DC this weekend. Unfortunately, his editor lost all interest in the article today after hearing the season was over and I didn’t win. So that’s that - I’m no longer newsworthy.
It’s ok, though. I fully expect to be famous eventually, and next time it’ll be on my own merits.
Your thoughts?Thoughts on the Beauty and the Geek finale February 15, 2007
Posted by Niels in : Beauty and the Geek , 36 comments
Whew! It’s been tough keeping my mouth shut all these months. What was I supposed to say when people asked me if I knew who won?
It was interesting watching the finale. This was the first episode that had any significant amount of footage that I hadn’t seen. I didn’t realize that the two final pairs had been led to believe they were going home after the night of the “fake” elimination! That was cool to see. I was also amused to see they included Scooter talking about Megan’s two years at community college but not her graduation from the University of Illinois, Chicago.
And of course, Nate is great. Maybe on Season 4 they’ll let the contestants award the money to an individual. It’s ok, though. I’m sure Nate will go far. Though I’m a little curious what the dynamic between him and Cecille will be like next week in Vegas. I’m sure she must have heard about his lobbying efforts already, but actually seeing it in full color does make it a lot more real.
And besides, as Scooter is now in LA breaking into acting, he’ll probably need that prize money just to cover rent.
That’s it for me, though! My reality TV stardom is fading fast. Nothing left but the clip show. I’ll continue offering dating and relationship advice as long as people keep reading - I’m as curious as you are how long that will be.
Your thoughts?Happy Valentine’s Day! Don’t spend any money! February 14, 2007
Posted by Niels in : How to, Other , 29 comments
Society teaches us to express our love by buying things. And that’s BS. I want someone who loves me for me, not because I can buy her $15 cocktails, or diamond earrings, or jet-ski trips to Ellis island ala the movie Hitch. This Valentine’s day, fight back and do something with your partner that’s actually meaningful.
Do something playful and have a tickle fight.
Do something emotional and talk about the day you met.
Do something sexy and tie someone up.
Do something impudent and pinch someone’s ass.
Do something romantic and feed each other dinner.
Do something relaxing and give each other massages.
And if you’re single…
Do something daring and say “Hi!” to a stranger.
Now wasn’t that more fun than a $50 box of chocolates?
Your thoughts?Ask Niels: How do I deal with a strained relationship? February 13, 2007
Posted by Niels in : Other , 7 comments
Since you give dating advices.. i got a question. I have a friend who has a boyfriend. They go to different schools and only see each other once a week. She thinks it’s kind of weird just seeing him only once a week. And she feels as if she doesn’t have a boyfriend until that one day they hang out. She doesn’t want to break up with him if he likes her. And she doesn’t really know if she likes him as much. They talk to each other during the other days they dont hang out.
What do you think she should do?
-Phillippa
This is the sentence that jumps out at me: She doesn’t want to break up with him if he likes her. I can offer your friend advice, but most importantly, she needs to decide what she wants. If she’s not happy in the relationship, if she’s not emotionally fulfilled, then she needs to end it, even if the boyfriend likes her.
Your friend’s boyfriend hasn’t shown your friend how much she means to him. It’s a trap that I’ve fallen into myself - just because a relationship is casual doesn’t mean it can’t be special.
But is she unhappy? She says it’s “weird” seeing him just once a week. “Weird” doesn’t mean she’s unhappy. “Weird” means “my friends are telling me things should be different”. If your friend is only seeing her boyfriend once a week, then she has a pretty casual relationship. And that’s ok, if she’s happy. Women are just as entitled as men are to casual relationships, but there is so much societal pressure telling them they’re wrong. As her friend, are you pressuring her into a relationship that she doesn’t want? After all, it’s you, not her, who’s asking me for advice.
Your friend needs to check in with herself and see how she feels. If she’s unhappy in the relationship, if she’s not that into her boyfriend, then she needs to end things. If she fakes her feelings for her boyfriend it’ll be even more hurtful to him when things finally end. But if she’s actually happy, then just relax and let her enjoy herself.
Your thoughts?My crazy schedule… February 13, 2007
Posted by Niels in : Personal , 8 comments
I just finished a teleseminar, giving dating advice to a bunch of guys in LA. Talk about fun! All I had to do was spend an hour ranting about the biggest mistakes I see people making as they try to improve themselves. I may put some clips up as a podcast if I can figure out how to edit sound files.
Anyway, I’m off to DC this week to help out at the Art of Rapport workshop, followed by Las Vegas for the Beauty and the Geek party, followed by Los Angeles, where I’ll be leading an Art of Attraction and an Art of Rapport workshop on consecutive weekends. The European tour should follow soon after that. I’m going to try and stay on top of answering your questions, but please understand if I can’t get to them right away. Whew!
Your thoughts?