Ask Niels: How does attraction work in an low-energy environment? February 27, 2007
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Hey Niels,
I was wondering if the material you guys teach in AoA can be used in low-energy enviroments like a college library, coffee shop or just walking around campus? Or should I just stick with the high energy places like bars and clubs? I have to admit i’m one of those guys who uses “Who lies more” in any situation, so i’m a little confused about it.
-Nick
If you’re still thinking of this process as learning “material”, you’re still going about this all wrong. It’s not about learning words you can say to pretend to be an attractive, confident person. It’s about actually transforming yourself, becoming an attractive, confident person, and ingraining these new traits into your body.
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It’s all about calibration. Style preaches coming in with the same or slightly higher energy than the set you’re jumping into. I apply this rule to just about anything - work, parties, at the checkout counter, funerals. Too little energy, and you’re a bore. Too high, and you’re a clown.
Another thing about the opener is that it has to be rooted. There has to be a reason (genuine works best) why you’re asking. Off the top of my head, libraries and college campuses are perfect for rooted openers. What’s better than academics and a thirst for knowledge as a reason to talk to a stranger?
Oh wait… I take this all back. You never told us to discuss. =P
Remember, in any scenario, it’s not lying-it’s flirting. You’re trying to grab the attention of the cute, hot, etc. gal or guy you’re targeting and you want to be noticed.
Aside from that, I wouldn’t neccessary say you have to transform yourself. The word transform brings to mind a negative connotation, as if you’re sculpting yourself to be an superficial ideal you’d hope to be. By learning new things and whatnot, I just think you bring out the hidden traits attractive to the other sex. Just transforming yourself for the dating game, for one number after the next…seems like an empty goal. There’s got to be more.