So much relationship potential September 25, 2006
Posted by Niels in : Dating coach, Personal , trackbackA year ago I didn’t believe it was possible to learn to attract women. Then Art of Attraction taught me to be more attractive and my whole world changed. And at the time I thought attraction was my only problem - that I was good at “small talk”, “normal conversation”, and connecting with people. The material in Art of Rapport changed my mind there. “Oh my God,” I thought, “I’m so emotionally walled off. I need to fix this, too.” So I did. And all my relationships changed.
And up until this weekend, I thought I was pretty good at relationships. Certainly, I’m far, far above average. I’ve been pretty happy in my relationships, the girls I’ve dated have been pretty happy, and I’ve never had a bad breakup.
But this weekend’s workshop blew my mind. Now that I have an understanding of what’s possible in a relationship, I feel so inadequate. I have the ability to make the girls I date so much happier than I have been. Someday, I’ll look back on my relationships and see a clearcut distinction between my pre-workshop relationships and my post-workshops relationships. Once again, my whole worldview has shifted.
The sad part is that now that I see how easy it is to make a woman happier than she’s ever been, I look around and see that no one else knows how to do it. Passion evaporating after 10 years of marriage is “normal”. My friends will have ok relationships. My sister will have an ok relationship. But not great. In fact, I think that most people, when presented with how happy two people can be in a long-term relationship, would simply refuse to accept it. It would be too painful to accept that a relationship that much stronger than theirs could exist.
I took nearly 70 pages of notes this weekend. I’m not even typing coherently right now. My mind has been blown.
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I wouldn’t assume others have less-fulfilling relationships. I think there are a lot of people, courses, books, religions, etc that help one have deeper and more meaningful relationships.
I took a course a while back that made huge difference in my own life and for at least a year afterwards, I thought everyone else was living in a fog. I later realized that I was actually looking down on others. Feeling sorry for them that they weren’t as “enlightened” as me.
It’s awesome you’ve found something that has made such a difference. And it’s great you want to share it with others. Just be careful not to push away friends in doing so.
P.S. How did the magazine pitch go?
We’ve got our first advisory board member! And a lot of things to think about for our business plan…
I would settle for an ok relationship, but so far I haven’t managed to even get that much.