Still an introvert September 16, 2006
Posted by Niels in : Dating coach, Magazine , trackbackI met a couple female friends of Deepthy’s today. We had dinner at Nobu (fancy-schmancy!) and went bar-hopping for the rest of the evening. They were really interested in my work as a dating coach and the magazine idea.
They reminded me that there’s an untapped market out there. We teach men how to become more attractive so they can meet new women, and we teach them the relationship skills to maintain a quality relationship with them. A lot of guys who come to our workshops have been through divorces and want not only to start dating again but also to learn the skills to make sure it never happens again. But we shouldn’t be just targeting the guys who have been through divorces. Guys in relationships need to know how to keep that spark, how to keep their partners attracted. We should be helping guys before the divorce occurs.
Our magazine needs to address that also - how to keep the fire in your relationship. I’ve been promised some media coverage in New Orleans when we finally launch, which will be great. Once again, it’s all about who you know.
I had a great evening. I really connected with some new friends and some quality flirting occured out at the bars. But I’m home now and I’m exhausted from being “on” all night. I’m jealous of my friends who are extroverts and are energized by social interaction. It still drains me. Not as much as it used to, which I find really encouraging, but there’s no question that I’m still an introvert.
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A relationship is just picking up the same chick over and over and over, again and again and again. Easier due to having a “lock” on the target (Haha hi baby, I know you’re reading this ;), harder because it takes a considerable amount of creatvity to keep generating new “material.”
Introvert: Low energy game. It’s not discussed. It’s a wide open topic.
Good points for discussion during a nice game of cutthroat at the Mallard.
I’ll see you in mid-October. Tuesdays in New York just aren’t the same.
So are you still doing the PhD thing? I mean will I see you at the next DySpan?
The extended summer internship threw a wrench into fall semester at Berkeley, but I plan to be back on track in the spring. In the meantime, I’m really excited about doing a bit of entrepreneurship.
I know what you mean about being “on” all night. I had a similar experience while coaching some guys in the field Saturday night. It doesn’t drain me nearly as much as it used to.
When you (or I) are very extroverted, you get a lot of emotional feedback from interacting with people. For us introverts, that is not something we are used to.
Not sure where I am going with this, I guess just saying that I am becoming more naturally extroverted and social with time too.
I love the idea about the magazine!i help alot of my friends out with relationships and stuff and i would love to help out with the magazine i mean if you had room for me…haha. but yeah can you tell me if you ever need a writer? thanks. About you still being an introvert just keep doing what your doing i mean socializing and meeting new people, the more you do that the more you’ll be able to find it easier to be in those situations, i use to be an introvert but getting involved in things i love to do (singing)with a group is so much better cuz then i was able to feel more comfortable with people and its with something that I love to do , sharing a common bond with someone really helps clams(introverts)hehe open up.
Hi niels.
I understand about “being energy drained.”
hmm.. personally i’m struggling to open my feelings to pple alittle more , im introverted too. i dun want to give out any mixed signals or anything to the other party. ha..ha
i admit that u r attractive.