I love being a dating coach August 28, 2006
Posted by Niels in : Dating coach , trackback33 hours on the first three minutes. I’m exhausted. But I feel incredible. I’ve got a total workshop high going on.
I got to help in all the classroom training, which I didn’t expect at all. My role to the students thus was essentially the same as any of the full-fledged instructors’. I helped in the fashion critique (hah!), standing and hand movement, group control, and more. It was a blast since all the students were so enthusiastic about learning.
The students did incredibly. I could hardly believe how well they did. They were talking to strangers all night long. They did so well there was almost nothing left for me to do. I just hung out with the other instructors, feeling proud and watching the students have fun in a bar for the first time in their lives.
Saying goodbye to everyone today was so moving. I’ve never had so many people so grateful to me. Everyone talked about how their lives have changed over the course of just three days. I feel awesome.
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i’m so proud of you niels!!!
For someone who “reads a lot on social skills and relationship,” and being part of AOA, do you consider yourself an expert on relationship and men?
I got a question for you. How do you tell a guy, nicely, that he talks too much about himself? Should I refer him to AOA? Do you teach men how to maintain friendship with females or all you do is teach men how to pick up women?
I believe helping others built confidence and appreciate themselves is wonderful. cheers to you
Thanks! That’s a great question. While I’m much better at relationships than I used be, I still have a lot to learn.
I hate the term “pickup”. We don’t teach men how to pick up women. We teach men how to be confident, social, and attractive. Once you have that down, the rest takes care of itself.
In terms of friendship, the material in our flagship workshop, Art of Rapport, improved all my relationships - with friends, family, and women. I used to be very emotionally closed off, and AoR teaches that the willingness to make yourself vulnerable and share your deepest feelings brings any relationship to a whole new level. I’ll write more on this in the future.
As for telling someone that he talks too much about himself, the best way is to tell him, straight up. The problem is, most people simply aren’t willing to listen. Most people aren’t confident enough to admit that there are things about themselves that could be improved. I talk about that here. Perhaps asking him if he is completely satisfied with his relationships would be a good place to start.